Ave flesh" and "feel pain". Those that shared personal experiences talked

People that shared personal experiences talked about being rejected, disliked and not respected by their households or society. D6: "But even though you're beaten after in your life you really feel discomfort, and it really is not simple to forget. My friends employed to laugh at me. Other colleagues and distant family members members have been abusing me by saying that I was beaten simply because I was poor at producing appreciate. I had frequent disagreements with my husband with various injuries, sad moments and sleepless nights." FGD 1 Men also talked about experiences of verbal abuse, getting denied sex or accused of not getting superior bread earners as threats to their dignity. D5:"I invested in a shop and gave the responsibilities to my wife. When the business grew she got a boyfriend in the spot she collects wholesale goods and began to abuse me. Because of my young children, I'm living with my wife but with precautions. I sleep in a separate space. Suffer silently." FGD 2'Results in emotional entrapment'A shame to admit emerged when females expressed their difficulties of disclosing IPV experiences that led to isolation, helplessness and limited social support from mates and the community. Additionally they described the stigma and disgrace that abused ladies are believed toThe third category, `Results in emotional entrapment', emanates from a Kiswahili metaphor that refers to marriage as a trap ("ndoa ndoano"). This was pointed out as an explanation of how violent relationships make people really feel trapped in their marriages and unable to decide to leave, despite abuse.Self blameA sub-category, Self-blame, shows how abused females blame themselves for the violence and became disoriented. The informants described how affected people turnedLaisser et al. BMC Girls?'?s Well being 2011, 11:13 http://www.biomedcentral.com/1472-6874/11/Page 7 offearful and withdrew from social life: D5: "It is hard to advise somebody who's living with violence to move out. She would normally complain and blame herself simply because she loves the man. I wonder why an individual who has issues with violence stays. Maybe she stays for the sake on the young children but in addition for the shame, or for worry of living alone." FGD 4Shifting tolerancewith my brother who assisted in divorce. It was not achievable to make it with out his help." FGD 4Gender norms in transitionThe sub-category Gender norms in transition emerged when males started to reflect on their existing part in maintaining gender norms that justify violence. D1:"IPV need to stop; you understand the girls we beat are other people's sisters and mothers." FGD 5 This RTG approach recommend that statement triggered further discussion on variations and similarities between violence against intimate partners and also other household members. Both males and girls agreed there was a have to have for action at a lot of levels and that the existing harmful gender norms must be changed. They mentioned the need to have for consolidated efforts at unique levels, governmental at the same time as overall health care. D1:"IPV Ointing to intravenous fluid bags hanging throughout his ward, explained, "intravenous should quit; you understand the females we beat are other people's sisters and mothers." FGD 5 This statement triggered further discussion on differences and similarities amongst violence against intimate partners as well as other household members.